Friday, June 02, 2006

Marriage

For those of you keeping up, I'm engaged. When you get engaged, right after people say "Congratulations", they almost always say, "You know, marriage is hard." Why do they do this? It boggles the mind.

Now, I've never been married, so take what I say with a grain of salt. It seems to be that it's not marriage that's hard, LIFE is hard... People seem to make a leap:

Life is hard. I am married. Therefore, Married life is hard and thus marriage is hard.

This is clearly a silly way to look at things. The other problem I have with the statement is that it's almost a challenge. It's as if people are saying, "Marriage is hard... Probably too hard for you." I bet there are studies (I'm too lazy right now to look for some, but maybe I'll post some later) that say that happily married people have a much easier life than happy non-married people because you have someone to rely on and help you when you need it.

I guess I'll have a lifetime to decide if I'm right!

Either way... getting married seems harder than being married...

3 comments:

Bela Naomi said...

post something new. I miss reading your blogs.

Anonymous said...

new content, please

Anonymous said...

Whatever comments, thoughts, revelations, etc. you have about marriage before being married will seem trivial observations after some time (at least a couple of years) is put between you and the wedding. Being married to the right person is the exception in that it seems more profound and amazing the further into it you get. It's truly hard to imagine being single again. You'll see.

FFOTB